I’ll tell you why New Year resolutions annoy me. Apart from setting yourself up for inevitable failure, they cause you to focus on both an unsatisfactory past and an uncertain future. The notion is that at the end of the year, you weigh up all the things you didn’t like about yourself and commit to …
Why is it that Christmas always leaves me feeling disappointed? Why is it that despite all the niceties and reunions going on around me, I feel alone, fearful and a little bit too sad for words? It seems strange that for a man of faith, Christmas is a time to be endured rather than celebrated. …
It is easy to lose sight of the good things in your life, especially when times are tough. Even at Christmas, there is no guarantee that you will find joy. With all the counting of blessings, celebrations and the inevitable resolutions that follow soon after, it is not unsurprising that many people crash in a …
There is power in knowing yourself. I’m not talking about how well you like your steak cooked or what your favourite sport is. I am talking about the subtleties of your emotions. Knowing those things that trigger you and send you downward. Those things that eat away at you slowly. I’m talking about knowing your …
If anything is a multi faceted thing, it would be identity. Many have argued that identity is beyond our control and to some extent this is true. We have no choice about when, where and into what circumstances we are born. All key factors in identity. Added to this, if we live an essentially honest …
Sadness is attracted to some people like a magnet is to steel. For them, everything is coloured through the dark grey lens of melancholy, even the good stuff. When people with a leaning towards sadness look back, they see nothing but misery. When they look forward, they see a future tainted by sorrow. This isn’t …
You never really know what someone else is thinking. Not really. Sure, you can almost figure it out with some people, you can read them like a book as the saying goes. Deep down though, despite seeming obvious, their mind will be somewhere else, having an existential crisis or figuring out how to fix the …
We all like to remember the good times. We like to mark the anniversary of significant occasions with a little celebration here and there. It’s nice to remember those times when we were at our best. If you were a sports person or an actor, they’d have given you a trophy. This remembrance approach is …
