Somewhere along the journey you have it all together and you feel it. The balls are in the air, your mask is on and you are performing for the crowd. Then something bad happens and either one by one, the balls hit the deck and you find yourself unmasked and broken. Once you have accepted …
I am healing from depression, but it is such a slow journey back into the light. Just when I think I am clear of the viscious darkness, the Black Dog turns up again nipping at my heals. It is exhausting if I am honest. Still, there is hope. I keep a healthy routine, despite the …
Know what is important Being young can be awful. Figuring out who you want to be, who you are and what is truly important takes years. Just when you think you’ve got it all figured out, the rules change and you’ve got to start again, often with dependents this time. Being older can be easier …
Fear of negative evaluation (FONE) is like hair… we all have it to varying degrees. Like hair, the fear of negative evaluation affects some of us more than others. A little fear of negative evaluation for instance, can be useful. It can force you to try harder with that essay, dress more appropriately or even …
I’ll tell you what I believe…. I believe that you need to know what you stand for. I believe that you need to know where the boundaries of what you are willing to accept lay. It is clear that you have to know which aspects of your life are negotiable and which are not negotiable. …
Many people express that they feel like the odd one out in any given situation. They feel isolated, misunderstood and different wherever they go. These people go through life like the boy in the bubble from Seinfeld, separated from true connection by an invisible shield that prevents intimacy. The reasons for this isolation are many …
If you believe Stephen King, it is the unanswered questions of life that make it worth getting up in the morning. To someone creative, an open ended, unanswered question presents thousands of possibilities to express yourself. If, however, you are like most of us, struggling to get through life on an even keel, unanswered questions …
Kramer: See you’ve got to listen to the little man. Your little man knows! George: My little man is an idiot. Seinfeld We all have a voice in our heads. Not an audible one that tells us we are a chicken, hopefully, but one that we have always known. One that tells us what we …
“tha mi bron ach” (the sadness is upon me) Celtic saying One of the most common mistakes that many of us make is that we believe we are our feelings. We are so close to our emotions, that they dictate to us our core identity. If you feel worthless, for example, then you believe you …
Ever noticed how when times are either fantastic or completely fractured that we like to think and express ourselves in absolutes? “That was the worst feeling….”, “I’ve never felt more pain…” and “That is the best news ever!…” come readily to mind. In my experience, this seems to be because that’s how we genuinely feel. …
